A Great Pregame Prayer

I’ve been a fan of Friday Night Lights from the very beginning. I love to hear Coach Taylor pray. (How often do we hear a main character on a TV show pray?) This prayer from a recent episode is the best pregame prayer I’ve ever heard:

Dear Lord, please allow these young men to safely pursue the height of their excellence tonight. And as a family allow them to achieve their goals with the gifts with which you have blessed them. Amen.

That sure beats asking God to help you beat the other team doesn’t it?

One Strong Belief

Here is my response to a recent Trust30 prompt. I’m a little nervous about posting it here, but I think that’s also part of the exercise. If you don’t agree with what I’ve written, let’s talk about it in the comments.

It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude. – Ralph Waldo Emerson, Self-Reliance

The world is powered by passionate people, powerful ideas, and fearless action. What’s one strong belief you possess that isn’t shared by your closest friends or family? What inspires this belief, and what have you done to actively live it?

I believe Christians talk about God too much.

One of my biggest struggles as a pastor has been that I’ve never been comfortable talking about God in the way that many of my Christian friends like to talk about him.

They’re always attributing various acts, motives, and outcomes to God.

God did this . . .
God said that. . .
God told me to. . .

The reason this bothers me so much is that I have no clue how they KNOW it was God who did or said what they’re giving him credit for saying or doing. I believe that God is constantly at work in and around us. I also believe that much of God’s work is far too mysterious and complex to describe in the casual tones of football commentators on a Sunday afternoon. God’s activity is best seen after the season is over, not in the middle of the game.

I remember one instance where someone in our church had a loved one in the hospital. The prognosis was dire. Death was imminent. Then one day, against all odds, she got better. He told everyone in sight that God had performed a miracle. She died the next day. Every skeptic who was paying attention couldn’t help but wonder why God’s miracle only lasted for 24 hours.

Sometimes we want to be able to tell our very own miracle story so badly that we jump the gun and end up making God look bad.

It also bothers when people of faith recruit God into whatever they’ve decided to do. God almost always wants them to take the higher paying job or marry the younger woman. I think we should pray before we make decisions and ask God for guidance, but when it comes time to announce our intentions, there’s no reason to give God the credit for what could be the biggest mistake of our lives.

One of my favorite stories in the Bible is the story of Esther. One detail that separates it from all the other books in the Bible is that God is never mentioned in the story. Mordecai never appeals to God when trying to persuade Esther to take her stand. Esther doesn’t trot out the name of God when confronting the King. While God is obviously at work in the events of the story, the storyteller lets us connect the dots for ourselves.

I find such understatement in matters of faith to be more persuasive than those in which people can’t tell a story, explain a decision, or take a position without playing the God card in an attempt to enhance their credibility or relieve them of responsibility.

I believe we honor God’s holiness by talking about him less, not more.

What do you think?

My Position On Hell (or lack thereof)

I’ve been thinking about heaven and hell a lot lately, thanks to Rob Bell and his new book Love Wins.  Have you heard of it? I haven’t read it yet, but this post really isn’t about what he says in the book. It’s more about why I have a hard time jumping into a discussion about hell.

I read somewhere once that theology grows out of autobiography. That is, our life story shapes our theological views. This is true of my position on hell. There was a time when I had no trouble giving my opinion about who was going to hell. I grew up in a church that taught me that all but a very few, very faithful, very obedient Christians were “lost.” We believed that Baptists, Methodists, Pentecostals, Catholics, and every other stripe of so-called “Christians” were facing eternal damnation. We even believed that those who believed everything we did about baptism, communion, and the Holy Spirit, but used a piano when they sang songs to Jesus were also without hope. Our confidence was bolstered by a stack of proof-texts that seemed to validate our points and condemn anyone who disagreed with us. I used to thank God I was born into the “Lord’s Church” and not some other church full of sincere, but mistaken people going to hell.

When I was in college I was exposed to a different way of reading the Bible and  therefore a different understanding of the Gospel. One day a gear slipped in my mind and I found myself open to the possibility that those who worshiped with instruments were not going to hell. Before long I had come to the conclusion that the Baptists probably weren’t going to hell either. I eventually flung wide the pearly gates to everyone who called Jesus “Lord” and trusted him for salvation.

Now I look back with shame at how I judged and condemned other Christians who were following the same Jesus I was, many times with greater passion and piety and than I. Once I let go of my certainty that my little group was the only one being saved, I was reticent to pass judgement on anyone else’s eternal destiny. I had been so cocksure and so very wrong. Now I find it hard to mount up and ride against those whose theology is different from mine. My experience has taught me that God is always bigger than we think he is and matters of faith (and the heart) are always more complicated than they appear on paper. No matter how right we think you are, we can still be wrong.

There was a time when I was consumed with the question, “Can a Baptist go to heaven?” That question eventually gave way to “Can a Buddhist be saved?” When you start out with a version of the gospel that was as exclusive as mine, the distance between these two questions are surprisingly close. At least they were in my mind. My answers to these questions are more open and generous than they used to be. If pressed, I can marshal a few proof-texts in support of my positions and opinions. Just as those who disagree with me can marshal theirs. I’m still curious as to what the Bible really says, and doesn’t say, about hell, so I’ll eventually buy Bell’s book and see what he has to say.

My theological autobiography has left me with neither the energy nor the nerve to engage in a good old fashioned “Who’s in and who’s out?” debate.  My position, or lack thereof, is open to assault from those so inclined to attack. I’ll be the first to admit that what they’re attacking is not a well-thought out theological position. It is a story. A story of an arrogant, judgmental young man who learned his lesson and is now trying to avoid making the same mistake twice. Yes, I realize I run the risk of making a mistake in the opposite direction. I decided a few years ago that I’d rather God judge me for being to gracious than too judgmental.

Others have learned similar lessons and managed to broaden the boundaries of God’s grace without doing away with them altogether. They’ve still got some fight left in them. My intellectual and emotional reactions to my judgmental religious heritage has led me in a different direction. I have no idea where hell is, how hot it will be, or who all will be in it. Nor do I know how many surprises will be waiting for us in heaven. I just know that these are things I am no longer willing to fight over. I’m not saying everyone will be saved. I’m not saying most will be condemned. I’m just saying I’m completely content to let God sort it all out in the end.

A Mean Prayer

Dear God: You know I’m not very good at prayer. I try, but my small words always get stuck on big ideas.  I’m trusting you know what I need–and what my prayers mean–even when I don’t.

I’ve read my Bible a few times and there are lots of things in there that bother me. Some of the things that bother me most are things the Bible says you’ve done. I’ve always thought of you as a creative force for good. Yet the Bible says that back in the day you did some pretty destructive things. Things that in my limited judgment seem out of character for the benevolent creator of this vast universe.

The Bible says that you. . .

drowned the world with water,

and destroyed cites with fire,

and ravaged crops with locusts,

and struck down the the firstborn of an entire nation,

and that you commanded your people to wipe out entire cities.

While these stories make me uncomfortable, I’ve always assumed you had your reasons. I can appreciate that the point you were making with these brutal acts of judgment made perfect sense at the time, even it they now cause people like me, living in a different time and place, to pass judgment on the way you did things back then.

But today I’m looking at such things from a different angle, and I’m wondering if it’s not time for you to make another point in a way that only you can.

I’m not asking you to do any of the things I’ve just mentioned, but the Bible says you did some other things back then that still might play well today:

Remember the time when you took away the voice of a religious man who should have known better? Or the time when you struck a misguided religious zealot with temporary blindness? I think you could still get away with stuff like that without being criticized for it by people like me.

Now Lord, I’m not asking you to kill anyone. But I’m wondering if maybe you might be willing to step in and do something about that church–you know the one–that is making headlines by spewing hate in your name? They’re heaping abuse on those who are already suffering terribly and they’re giving you the credit for it.

What about a tornado in the middle of the night that destroys their building (but injures no one of course)? Would you consider striking their leader blind for a few days? That did wonders for Saul. Or maybe muting his voice for several months? Give him a large chunk of quiet time to think about his hateful rhetoric and maybe the next time he speaks he’ll have a different message. Or how about a hoard of crickets overrunning their property?  Not too many, just enough to drown out their message with constant chirping.

I trust that you’ll do the right thing in this. Just please intervene and let the world know that you do not approve of what these people say and do. There’s a lot of us down here already saying so, but I think it would mean a lot more to the rest of the world if it came from you directly.

That’s about it. Thank you and good night. (I can’t bring myself to offer this prayer in the name of Jesus because I’m not sure he would approve.  So this one is all on me. Though if he wants to give it a thumbs up when it crosses his desk, I would appreciate the endorsement.)

Your frustrated servant,

Wade

Oh, and one more thing. If in your infinite wisdom you know that by answering this prayer and doing any of the things I’ve just suggested, it would nudge me irreversibly in the direction of becoming the kind of person I’ve just prayed against, then please disregard this prayer altogether.  Like I said, I don’t always understand what my prayers mean and sometimes I need to be forgiven for saying mean prayers.

The F-Word

In this post, I want to noodle around a bit with an idea and see what comes of it.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve had several friends gently, lovingly, but forthrightly challenge my use of the word “failure” in a few of my recent posts. It seems that some have done so because they’re afraid I’m internalizing the word “failure” and while using it to describe a recent project, I’m also applying it in a self-descriptive way.

They’re doing their best to keep me from saying, “I am a failure.” Lord knows nothing good comes from walking around with that phrase rattling about in our heads. So I can appreciate that they’d want to prevent me from this form of self-mutilation.

However, I still don’t think it’s inappropriate to use the word “failure” to describe certain projects and experiments.

If I go out to the track later today and state that my goal is to run a mile in less than 5 minutes and then proceed to run one in five minutes and thirty seconds, I will have failed to achieve my goal. This doesn’t mean I’m a failure, but it does mean I failed to reach my goal.

If a scientist steps into a lab to test his hypothesis and finds that after a series of experiments his hypothesis isn’t validated by the data, then he can say that he failed to prove his hypothesis. It doesn’t make him a failure, but it does mean that he failed to prove what he set out to prove.

When I speak about a “failed church plant” I’m speaking about how we failed to achieve our overall goals as a community, one big one being to launch sustainable weekly gatherings. That doesn’t mean that everyone involved in the project is a failure, but it does mean that we failed to reach our goal.

I see no problem with using the word in this objective sense. It is bracing, but it is also square with reality.

Of course, history has proven that perceived failures can lead to other positive, if unexpected, outcomes. Even when used objectively, the passage of time opens up the word “failure” to subjective reinterpretation.

Failing to run a sub five-minute mile can create a greater sense of determination and perseverance in the runner who plans to come back to the track week after week until he reaches his goal. A failed scientific experiment may fail to prove a hypothesis and yet at the same time open the door to even greater discoveries. Only God knows what eternal fruit will result from a failed church plant.

That last sentence gets us down to the real business of this discussion.

Many of us are comfortable using the word failure in relation to athletics, or business, or science, but when it comes to the things of God, we balk, and understandably so. It is easy to oversimplify things and say, “The reason something failed is because God wasn’t involved.” But that doesn’t always square with reality either, especially for those who are close to the project. We experience God throughout the course of events, and yet we still fail to achieve our goals. I wonder if the reason some cringe when they hear the phrase “failed church plant” is because they do not believe it is appropriate to ever describe anything of which God is a part, as a “failure.” So they challenge my use of the word out of a desire to defend God.

But what if by acting on this admirable impulse, they are playing their cards a bit too early and inadvertently stealing God’s thunder? When speaking of failure, people of faith must always leave room for God to redefine the word for us. He can redefine failure as no one else can, but such redefinition belongs to him and him alone. Let us not presume to redefine our failures for God. Is it possible that when we jump in too soon and try to redefine our own failures, or the failures of others on their behalf, we blunt the force of the surprising twists God intends to give to the many failures we accumulate through the course of a lifetime?

Could it be that by boldly using the word “failure”, and always in the objective sense, we’re leaving room for God to apply his own subjective reinterpretation to it?

Jesus was a failed Messiah. For three days, there was no other way to describe him. His death on the cross left no other option. Then God stepped in and redefined Jesus’ failure as faithfulness and reinterpreted the cross as a symbol of victory rather than defeat.

That God says “resurrection” doesn’t mean we should stop saying “dead.” The former needs the latter to have any meaning at all. That God intends to redeem our disappointments and shortfalls doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t still use the word “fail.”

So this is what I say: Go forth and fail. Fail often and fail boldly. Do not shrink from calling your failure what it is. Hold it up for the world to see. Then place it’s dead body in the tomb and seal it with a stone.

What comes out three days later is entirely up to God.